Dealing with sexual rejection is never a walk in the park. It feels lousy, and it’s okay to admit it. But wallowing in self-pity and fears of your own inadequacy aren’t going to help you: a) feel hot (which you are!) or b) find someone with whom you are actually compatible – in bed and otherwise. The best way to deal with your shoes being removed from under someone else’s bed, is to put them on and move forward – toward the right kind of love or lust. You know, the mutual variety!<\/p>\n<\/p>\n
So what do you do when you’ve been rejected by a lover? When your sexual styles just don’t match, the chemical attraction just isn’t there, or they find someone else more desirable? <\/p>\n<\/p>\n
Break it down<\/strong> Find your comfort zone No one who is right for you (even in the most casual sense) will want to push you beyond your limits. If your interests don’t match up – or at least make each other curious – you’re not well-suited to each other. Sex should be a supportive endeavor, whether it’s as kinky as a dominatrix dungeon or as vanilla as ice cream with apple pie. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n Fan your own flames<\/strong> Take yourself to a sex shop<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Dealing with sexual rejection is never a walk in the park. It feels lousy, and it’s okay to admit it. But wallowing in self-pity and fears of your own inadequacy aren’t going to help you: a) feel hot (which you are!) or b) find someone with whom you are actually compatible – in bed and otherwise. The best way to deal with your shoes being removed from under someone else’s bed, is to put them on and move forward.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2341,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[33290,206,1458,13615],"cp_author":[7596],"class_list":["post-1642000","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","tag-love-relationships","tag-relationship-advice","tag-sexual-chemistry","tag-sexual-confidence","cp_author-california-psychics"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
Chemistry is just that – chemical. While many of us will try to find fault (usually with ourselves) and place blame in the face of rejection, the truth is, it wouldn’t have mattered if you were ten pounds thinner, had six pack abs or never went a day too long before getting waxed. As hard as it is to do, if you can reduce being told no thank you<\/em> down to a science experiment that failed (call it, elements that just didn’t mix), you’ll be much less likely to feel bad about it.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n
<\/strong>Whether or not you were hot for the person who’s no longer in the picture, there are lessons to be learned from your experience. Consider what you did and didn’t like about your interactions. Were you self-conscious in bed? Worried about how you’d be perceived if you really let go? Convinced that had you been willing to do x, y, or z when asked (no matter how “not right” it felt to you) that your lover would still be with you? Well, it’s time to let that go. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n
While it may seem useless when you’re feeling rejected, now is the moment to step into your own sexuality. You are a vibrant and sexual being exactly as you are – and you need to own that. If you’re having trouble getting there, why not let a little pampering help?<\/p>\n