{"id":15234,"date":"2010-12-23T11:00:33","date_gmt":"2010-12-23T19:00:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=15234"},"modified":"2016-05-03T14:39:50","modified_gmt":"2016-05-03T21:39:50","slug":"growing-pains-and-an-impatient-heart","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/psychic-questions\/growing-pains-and-an-impatient-heart.html","title":{"rendered":"Red Responds: Growing Pains and an Impatient Heart"},"content":{"rendered":"

Kate from Charleston asks:<\/p>\n

Hi Red, I\u2019ve had a year of growth on every level<\/strong><\/a>, and they don’t call them growing pains for nothing. When I least expected it, the one I had asked for appeared. We met at work. At first, the flirtation was harmless, and then it went from zero to serious very quickly. This was something that neither of us anticipated or planned. The first five months were dreamy, and then life happened. He\u2019s eleven years younger than me, but age has never been an issue for us \u2013 with the exception of possibly having a family together. <\/em><\/p>\n

Long story short, we took a break, so that he could focus on other issues stressing him out \u2013 such as his finances and student loans<\/strong><\/a>. For the first time, I experienced what it was to be selfless in love and patience. At the end of July, we begun to communicate more, and I feel that we\u2019re on the path to make up, not break up. <\/em><\/p>\n

Is this truly what I’ve felt developing \u2013 a feeling of selfless love \u2013 and, if so, when will the tide truly turn? While my gut tells me that this will happen, it feels like an incredibly long journey with no end in sight. If it\u2019s not, and the lesson has purely been one of my personal and spiritual growth, will I ever fulfill the dream of having a husband and children? I don\u2019t want to give up just because I\u2019m losing my ability to be selfless, but I\u2019m not sure that I can take much more of this. Thanks.<\/em><\/p>\n

Psychic Red ext. 9226<\/a> <\/strong> Responds:<\/p>\n

Dear Kate,<\/p>\n

Take a deep breath and relax. This is for real. However, things aren\u2019t going to come together as simply or quickly as they do in the movies, so all that patience you\u2019ve acquired is going to come in handy!<\/p>\n

This man who was delivered to you came into your life for many reasons. Your spiritual growth<\/strong><\/a> is only part of it, and that man-inspired journey has only just begun. So, embrace what you\u2019ve learned and achieved, but know that you still need to keep your game face on. Even though the two of you are slowly moving closer, it\u2019s still going to take time before things are solid once again.<\/p>\n

Neither of you can fight, or forget, your feelings for one another. This is part of the tie that binds you together. However, he isn\u2019t quite ready for the happily-ever-after, nor is his financial plane a picture of health. He\u2019s making progress on all fronts, but he still has a ways to go. Even though he may not show it, he\u2019s struggling just as much as you.<\/p>\n

While your acts of selfless love are to be commended, it doesn\u2019t mean that you won\u2019t have impatient, selfish times. You\u2019re only human. Waiting is hard work! It gets frustrating, and you\u2019re allowed to be frustrated. Yet, all of that isn\u2019t going to change the fact that you aren\u2019t going to connect with someone else the way you\u2019ve connected with him.<\/p>\n

The age difference between the two of you really doesn\u2019t present as a problem, but it\u2019s in part why the two of you are going through what you have been going through. You\u2019ve had the time to get your life in order, and he, with you as inspiration, has really only just begun. He\u2019ll get there. Nevertheless, I do have to point out that he will still have some financial complications when the two of you are solidifying your relationship, but this doesn\u2019t present as a problem as much as it does an inconvenience.<\/p>\n

You will have the happiness you dream of, and he is big part of the picture.<\/p>\n

Brightest Blessings,<\/p>\n

Red<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Do you have a question for Red? Ask Red your question now.<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

What’s ahead for your <\/em>love life<\/strong>?<\/strong> Try a psychic reading. Call 1.800.573.4830<\/span> or choose your psychic now. <\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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