{"id":14894,"date":"2010-11-02T13:00:45","date_gmt":"2010-11-02T20:00:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=14894"},"modified":"2010-11-02T14:30:38","modified_gmt":"2010-11-02T21:30:38","slug":"the-power-of-denial","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/mind-body-spirit\/the-power-of-denial.html","title":{"rendered":"The Power of Denial"},"content":{"rendered":"

It’s said that the power of love and hate can overcome anything… but I believe that denial is even stronger.<\/p>\n

What makes denial so powerful is that it works with its \u201caccomplices\u201d \u2013 avoidance, diminishing, and blame. It therefore is one of the hardest habits<\/a><\/strong> to break. How can a person work on something that they feel they are not responsible for or didn\u2019t do?<\/p>\n

Denial leaves no room for self-awareness, and no room for growth<\/a><\/strong> or freedom, but it sure as hell makes life much easier, or so it seems! Denial, after all, is the sister of ignorance, and ignorance is supposedly bliss.<\/p>\n

One would assume that it’s easier to avoid responsibility and look the other way. I’ve been in denial many times. And I always ended up paying the price for it. Consequences are what finally got me out and away from the blame game. As long as there are no severe consequences, as long as there are enablers, there will be denial.<\/p>\n

I remember having a conversation with my father twenty years ago. He was telling false stories, and I corrected him. He totally flipped out, and yelled at me that I’m a liar. This is the first time that I truly started to grasp denial. He didn\u2019t defend, he actually believed what he was saying!<\/p>\n

I have observed this behavior time and time again, and it still leaves me speechless. As a manager, I would present an employee with black and white results, and he or she would look straight at them, claiming that they didn\u2019t do it, or that it wasn\u2019t their fault. I remember reprimanding an employee once for constant personal phone calls. She looked straight at me and told me that she was never on the phone during work hours. I sat right next to her!
\nOr I would call someone I considered a friend on their bad attitude, and they\u2019d turn around and attack me. And then there’s the downplaying of a situation… i.e.m \u201cI wasn\u2019t really cheating on you, we were just hanging out.\u201d<\/p>\n

Life seems so much easier when one removes all responsibility, accountability and truth, and when one can point the finger at someone else, claiming that \u201cit\u201d wasn\u2019t a big deal, that they didn\u2019t do it, or attacking the one who called them on their actions. But is it really the better place to be? Would I rather be able to live in total denial? What would my life look like?<\/p>\n

What are we without our integrity and strong character? What are we if we can neither receive, nor give truth? How sad would my life be if I had to continuously muster up all my energy to keep my eyes firmly shut and avoid being discovered for the fraud that I truly am?<\/p>\n

When I lived in firm denial, there was no bliss. Instead, there was disappointment, tears, anger, sadness and isolation. As long as I couldn\u2019t be real with myself, I couldn\u2019t attract others who were real either; which left me pretty lonely and miserable. The more I\u2019d deny and blame, the more I\u2019d sink into unrealistic expectations and victimhood; which in return would leave me more and more disappointed. With each disappointment, I\u2019d point the finger again for being rejected and deceived. After all, denial fuels one of the most dangerous parts of the ego, the victim and martyr.<\/p>\n

There was no happiness in those modes for me. There was no satisfaction and definitely no light at the end of the tunnel. Life would vary from being miserable and sad to being mediocre and bearable. There was not a whole lot of joy and no freedom at all! The few moments of \u201cfun\u201d were pseudo moments of happiness that wouldn\u2019t last, but at least gave me the illusion that I was OK.<\/p>\n

I now know that I am not the outsider I thought I was. It turns out that there are quite a few people who get me perfectly well. Maybe it’s easier to understand me when I don\u2019t wear a mask, act from fear or suspicion, or from a place of having way too many expectations? I’m complicated and multi-faceted, but that doesn\u2019t make me unreasonable or impossible to get along with. I’m more open and vulnerable than I’ve ever been. I guess that makes me more approachable and shows my true character. Evidently, this \u201cnew\u201d me draws in a lot more people. Not living in denial any longer has given me the true, keen insight needed to stay clear of those who could exploit or damage this newfound open heart.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s a bit wobbly out there, but these days it’s actually much more fun, less energy consuming and leaves me with feelings of true bliss<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

What’s ahead for your <\/em>path of personal evolution<\/strong>?<\/strong> Try a psychic reading. Call 1.800.573.4830<\/span> or choose your psychic now. <\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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