{"id":14436,"date":"2010-11-08T11:00:32","date_gmt":"2010-11-08T18:00:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.californiapsychics.com\/?p=14436"},"modified":"2016-05-03T14:39:58","modified_gmt":"2016-05-03T21:39:58","slug":"wracked-with-guilt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.californiapsychics.com\/blog\/psychic-questions\/wracked-with-guilt.html","title":{"rendered":"Red Responds: Wracked With Guilt"},"content":{"rendered":"

Younus from London, UK asks: <\/em><\/p>\n

I\u2019m thirty-eight years old, male, and married with two kids, but there is another woman in my life. We met and fell in love on the Internet <\/strong><\/a>while I was alone, and away from my family. I lied<\/strong><\/a> about my name and identity. At one point, I even told her we\u2019d get married. <\/em><\/p>\n

Later, when my family joined me, I began to feel bad about all the lies I told my girlfriend. I revealed my identity to her, and that I was married with children. She was shocked. After a few months, we started talking again, and I knew I didn\u2019t want to lose her.<\/em><\/p>\n

One day, she told me that her parents were arranging a marriage for her. Without telling my wife, I went to save my girlfriend from marrying someone she didn\u2019t want to marry. I met her parents, and told them we wanted to get married (I\u2019m Muslim, and a second marriage is allowable). We kept my true identity from her parents. When I returned home, I realized it was all wrong. I was not doing justice by marrying her secretly. So I told that her that I couldn\u2019t marry her. Eight years have passed, and my girlfriend still says she will never marry anyone – except me. <\/em><\/p>\n

She is very kind, never asked me for anything, and kept our affair a secret. We\u2019re still in touch, and occasionally meet in person. I know she loves me deeply. I\u2019m still unable marry her, because of my family. I can\u2019t leave my family. I regret<\/strong><\/a> that we had physical relations, and that we\u2019re so close. I feel so bad and guilty, and feel that I have deprived her the opportunity to get married. She is alone in different country, and we are still in touch. I don\u2019t know what to do.<\/em><\/p>\n

Psychic Red ext. 9226<\/a> <\/strong> Responds:<\/p>\n

Dear Younus,<\/p>\n

Let me start by saying that it\u2019s good that you recognize you\u2019ve made some bad decisions, and have behaved selfishly. Now, you just need to realize that it\u2019s never too late to set things in motion, on a better path. However, it\u2019s not going to be easy \u2013 for you or your girlfriend.<\/p>\n

You have a very strong soul connection with this woman, and your feelings for her run very deep. I know that when you first started filling the void in your life by chatting with her, that you never dreamed things would become so complex.<\/p>\n

Your girlfriend loves you deeply, and is loyal to you. While she doesn\u2019t place demands on you, she holds very tightly to the hope that someday you may choose to be with her. If you really want what is best for her, and for her to find happiness, you need to cut all ties, and let her go. The past can\u2019t be undone, and that is something you will have live with. The future is filled with many variables. By continuing to have contact with her, however infrequent, she will continue to hope and wait. The best thing for you both is for you to find the strength to remove her hope, and set her free. While this will be a painful transition for each of you, it must be done in order for her to find happiness with another man.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t see you leaving your family. While you carry the great weight of guilt for both your physical and emotional betrayals, your relationship with your wife and family would deteriorate if they knew the truth. Even though I don\u2019t see divorce, your wife would not be able to forgive you. It would be wise of you to keep your transgressions a secret.<\/p>\n

Yes, you\u2019ve made some mistakes, and are struggling with the guilt and consequences of those mistakes. By doing what you know to be right \u2013 for your family and for your girlfriend \u2013 you will become a better man, and eventually will find peace through your sacrifices, and your own forgiveness<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n

I hope this helps you.<\/p>\n

Brightest Blessings,<\/p>\n

Red<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Do you have a question for Red? Ask Red your question now.<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

What’s ahead for your <\/em>love life<\/strong>?<\/strong> Try a psychic reading. Call 1.800.573.4830<\/span> or choose your psychic now. <\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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