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Mary in Toronto asks:<\/p>\n

I had an intense<\/strong><\/a> but short-lived sexual relationship with a man back in January for about three months. We\u2019d talk everyday, and were greatly attracted to one another. It didn\u2019t end so well, and I\u2019m not even sure what happened, but we stopped speaking. Now after six months, he has contacted me again. I know people come into our lives for a reason, season, or lifetime. Which one is it for him and me? Why now, after I\u2019ve moved on, is he back? If it\u2019s a reason, then what is it I\u2019m supposed to learn? Thank you, Mary<\/em><\/p>\n

Psychic Red ext. 9226<\/a> <\/strong> Responds:<\/p>\n

Dear Mary,<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t complicate things by trying to analyze the return of your old lover. Things really aren\u2019t any more in-depth than what you\u2019ve already concluded\u2014he came into your life initially for a reason, even though he only stayed for a season.<\/p>\n

When the two of you were first together, he made you laugh, showed you his softer side, and helped you clear your head. You fell for his potential and trusted most of what he said. For that space and time in your life, he filled a void and lifted your spirits\u2014and you did the same for him. Each of you was what the other needed at the time. Even though things started off fairly well, each of you was going through a transitional period. This was not a bond or a relationship that was meant to last forever.<\/p>\n

He is primarily seeking you out for a sense of closure<\/strong><\/a>, and half-heartedly to see if there is a chance to potentially pick things up where they left off. He genuinely wants you to be happy\u2014with or without him.<\/p>\n

If you choose to let him into your life, the second time around will not be much different than the first. If you ever decide that you want a friend with benefits<\/strong><\/a> arrangement, all you\u2019d have to do is call. However, he really doesn\u2019t seem like he\u2019d be the most dependable friend, and the \u201cbenefits\u201d really don\u2019t seem like they\u2019re really that great.<\/p>\n

Since you\u2019re not-so-pleasant parting of ways, you\u2019ve grown and moved on, but your ex seems to be rather stuck in the same patterns and cycles that he was dealing with back then. Sure, he\u2019ll try and tell you that he, too, has grown\u2014but after you scratch beneath the surface, not much in him or his world will have changed. He\u2019s not a bad guy, but he\u2019s also not the one for you.<\/p>\n

There really isn\u2019t a huge or profound lesson attached to this relationship, except that it has already run its course.<\/p>\n

Brightest Blessings,<\/p>\n

Red<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

What’s ahead for your <\/em>love life<\/strong>?<\/strong> Try a psychic reading. Call 1.800.573.4830<\/span> or choose your psychic now. <\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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