Red Responds: Will You Find Love Again After a Divorce?

When Will Your Life Pick Up?

Jennifer from Chapmanville asks:

Within a four-month period, my husband told me he didn’t want to be married anymore, I went through the heartbreak of divorce and I found out he had been cheating on me with some other woman for God only knows how long. My question is, will I ever find love again?

Dear Jennifer,

I’m sorry you’ve had such a rough time. I’m not trying to be unkind, but your husband really could be a bit of a putz at times. In a way, he did you a favor, albeit a painful one. Some blessings aren’t gift wrapped. In five or six years, you’ll be able to look back and be grateful for the happy life you have, especially when compared to the one of struggle you would be living if things hadn’t gone the way they did.

As for finding love again, you will. That’s the good news. The bad news isn’t that bad, but true love will be a bit elusive for over a year. Please don’t let this discourage you. Sometimes things happen when they are meant to, rather than when we would like them to.

Jennifer, I really want to encourage you to take some time to work on yourself, and maybe even focus on some private therapy. The scars of your relationship and divorce are pretty deep. You’re dealing with it, but a little assistance could create major changes more quickly. Not only would talking to a therapist be good for you in terms of helping you to heal, but it could also help you navigate the dating game a little better. You have a very compassionate heart, and if you’re not careful, it could get you into trouble. Just because you are a good person, it doesn’t mean that everyone else out there is as good of a person as you. I’d rather see you be able to spot the less-than-truthful guys you are going to run into.

Like many people discover, love will find it’s way into your world again, but when you’re not so actively looking for it. You’re going to go through the dating motions. First, it will be hard to get a date that is worth spending time with, then you’ll have a few interesting guys to choose from and you’ll begin to have fun. It is at that point, when you are relatively happy with yourself and your life, and your freedom, that the guy who is going to be your next Mr. comes into range. From what I’m seeing, you aren’t going to meet him until about mid 2014. That may sound like a long time from now, but it will pass quickly.

So, not only are you going to find love, but you will find yourself with a man who is actually deserving of you. He will be a great friend, lover and husband. You’re going to be with a guy who will truly be your partner. Stop thinking of the past as a disaster, and start viewing it as the catalyst that inspired you to raise the bar and live a better and happier life.

Brightest Blessings,

Red

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One thought on “Red Responds: Will You Find Love Again After a Divorce?

  1. Angela

    Thank you so much I needed to read this article due to me having been in the same predicament. Thank you again for giving me some hope about me one day having my love come into my life.

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