How to Handle Loss and Grief

How to Handle Loss and Grief

 Let’s Move Past Loss and Grief Together!

When it comes to loss and grief, we live in a society that expects us to suck it up and move on. For example, a parent dies and we are expected to return to work three days later. But what happens to those feelings of helplessness, hopelessness and debilitating depression? As an interfaith ordained minister, grief counselor and psychic, I spend a lot of time talking about loss and grief. Some people are looking for closure, while others are looking for constructive ways to move on and lead productive and pleasurable lives. I feel blessed and honored to guide clients through these experiences.

You can recover from loss! Psychic Serafina ext. 6327 wants to help. Click here to connect to her!

It’s Complicated

Loss and grief are complicated. I find that even though my callers and I are talking about a specific incident, this is not their first experience with loss and grief. In fact, if we travel back far enough, we discover a major loss or abandonment occurring early in life. Over time, if each loss is not dealt with, they build, one on top of the other, into a seemingly insurmountable mountain of grief. I usually get the call when the loss and grief are too much to handle, bringing the caller to their knees. They want to know why they’re experiencing this. Usually, their self-esteem is quite low.

A Way Through

It’s not easy to fix everything in one session and that’s because it’s not just about one traumatic event. It’s about every traumatic event! But what I can offer is a way through—a light at the end of the tunnel. The solution is to allow love in. It may be hard to do, but it leads to healing the heart and creating the change (closure or moving forward) you want so badly.

Look at loss and grief as a transition. As a psychic, it’s my job to guide you through it. Here is what I recommend you and I try together:

Forgive Them: Make a list of everyone who has done you wrong—whether they’ve hurt you or abandoned you. Now write a letter to each of them, explaining how they made you feel. You can choose to give them the letter or burn it.

Forgive Yourself: Stop blaming yourself for them leaving you. If you were abandoned by a parent, know that you were a child and did nothing. If you were left by a lover, know that they left because of their own issues.

Figure Out What Matters Most: Take a moment and ask yourself what really matters to you.

Nurture Yourself: Be kind to yourself and do nurturing, healing things. If you need ideas, call me.

Find Good People: Surround yourself with people who believe in you and want to help you heal.

Acknowledge the Baby Steps: You won’t always take huge strides toward improvement every day. Acknowledge and respect the baby steps. They help you heal, too.

Remember that life is a dance. You get to choose who you want to dance with. Don’t wait around for people to choose you. Take an active role in picking who you share time with. Request nothing other than a sacred relationship. Don’t be afraid to ask a lot of questions. And most importantly, remember to have fun!

With love always,

Psychic Serafina ext. 6327

17 thoughts on “How to Handle Loss and Grief

  1. Sandy

    My husband just passed away 11 days ago and all I do is cry. Does he miss me, can he see me, I need to know he loves me. We were married 46 years. I love him so much it hurts. I talk to him all the time.

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  2. Serafina

    Michaela,
    I am happy the article touched you. Yes the Holidays can be difficult! Take time to nurture yourself, and be with friends. Would love to hear from you:)
    Love always,
    Serafina

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  3. Serafina

    Dear Sandra,
    I am so sorry for your losses. I hear that you are asking about your future. Please call in and we can look at that together in a Reading.
    Looking forward to hearing from you.
    Love always,
    Serafina

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  4. Serafina

    Maggie,
    I am sending you lots of love. You are awesome! Thank you for sharing your tragic story.
    It does take time to forgive and to trust even though it goes against the grain with an experience such as yours.
    Love always,
    Serafina

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  5. Serafina

    Dear Colleen,
    My heart goes out to you. You have been through a lot of loss! I too have been through a lot of loss in my life and yes it is painful! I have faith that there is a bigger plan for you. Grieving is something we have to do in order to move on, even though it never goes away, it can get easier.
    I would love to be of assistance and even offer you some new ways to create more joy and happiness in your life.
    I look forward to hearing from you.
    Love always,
    Serafina

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  6. Serafina

    Dear Benjamin,
    Thank you for writing your story. I don’t think we ever stop loving our exe’s! Moving forward is awkward, but some how the Universe/God hears our requests. Don’t give up!!!
    Would love to read for you.
    Love always,
    Serafina

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  7. Serafina

    PR
    I have searched my article for the statement “ask a lot of questions”, but I don’t see that comment. That being said, I have total sympathy for your situation. Being in a relationship where caring for another cannot be communicated through words can feel devastating and very isolating.
    Not knowing your whole story, I would invite you not to give up on being a sensitive Virgo:)
    When two people enjoy and support each others’ well being, a simple question can be a joy.
    It sounds like your ex was having challenges within himself and perhaps, not even believing that he was deserving of your love and attention.
    I hope that you believe that there will be that special someone who will return your love.
    Thank you for writing in and I look forward to hearing from you again and perhaps even doing a reading for you.
    Love always,
    Serafina

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  8. Michaela

    Thank you! This is very inspirational, and I really need to hear this right now. The holidays are so difficult to get through.

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  9. Sandra

    Confused in life my mom passed away in May and my marriage is on the rocks what do you see me doing in the coming year in may

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  10. Maggie

    Thank you this article is so inspiring, I lost my dad in 2008 a very tragic way, and I was the one to find his body, till this day it still hurts just as bad when I first had lost him… everyone was telling to just move on get over it, so I started blaming myself matter of fact I still blame myself cause I didn’t get there in time to help save him… I would argue with them it still didn’t go well, one of my older siblings had to me at least you got to see his last smile… that’s so ignorant I couldn’t even believe what I was hearing… So I started to think what if I would have go to him into time he would still be here, I isolated myself from everyone and anyone to the point I don’t even like to be around certain people, now I get sacred when someone gets ill cause I feel like its always my fault now… I’d always try telling people that everyone grieves in there one way but no one would listen to me.. accept GOD… But thank you this article is amazing!!!!! again THANK YOU 🙂

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  11. LLOYD

    Its up to you when you take a loss either to forgive an forget an let the ther person in but;it might be the same for that person an they no intetions anyway of keeping things going.That might be the difference where some cannot work it , where others can.Thats the same at a funeral some let thier emotions follow the other person let go get on with your tasks at hand. Its not like your favorite car or motorcycle thier you can take the loss …its another ad which people either like what they see or they dont,some no from past experience to go work things thru if they dont its just thier own views of what they haved precieved from thier past viewing of those people or person.

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  12. Colleen

    How does one get thru the loss of their 2-‘Go to’-Main men in your life ? My father, terminal 2/4/11 yet ..unexpected .. My Brother @ 52 ..13 weeks later — 4/30/11– watching my Mother ..loose her only son, running the Family Co., @ 79 yrs old.. Can’t talk about my Brother.. ( we were both born in 1959-him, 1/3—& me — 12/7 … Sucks soooo bad…

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  13. Benjamin

    It has been three long years since our divorce she wanted it took her many years to go for it. Now I am unable to move on and no one to be with it is very lonely here and I really do not want go out with those who are in my age bracket not much here where I live and dating sites are full of scams so that’s out she left for an other state for one year cam back moved into a friends home and then had to moved back in with me she as been hurt by dating sites before she left and wen she was gone and t hen she cam back home here the big problem is I never stopped loving her my ex my age is 64 I feel to old to date now and no one I want to date she is 61

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  14. PR

    Healing from hurt is the hardest thing. Being a deeply sensitive Virgo, I carry it with me longer than most. While my head can rationalize the situation, it is harder for my heart to heal.

    You state to ask a lot of questions, this is what broke up my relationship. He said I asked too many questions. I wasn’t allowed to ask the most mundane things like, “How was your day?” “What is that, I’ve never seen that before?” I don’t know how to have a conversation without asking questions!

    I know it didn’t work because he had his own issues but, I am one of those foolish women who believes that things will get better, that love will conquer all. I am learning that I set myself up foe my own hurts. Love isn’t easy, loss is harder.

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