Relationship Hacks: The Best Tips for Turning an Enemy Into a Friend

Everything You Need to Know About Turning an Enemy Into a Friend

“Your worse enemy could be your best friend and your best friend your worst enemy.” – Bob Marley

If you’ve been feuding with someone for quite a while, it might be time to bury the hatchet. Maybe you feel a little obligated to because they’re family, a co-worker or you’re just tired of feeling angry and negative about the situation. Or maybe your friendship with them ended on bad terms and you’d like to get back what you once had. Whatever the reason, there is definitely a right way to go about working things out with an enemy. Here are five tips for turning an enemy into a friend!

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You Have to Forgive (But You Don’t Have to Forget)

In order for you both to move forward in your relationship, you both have to let go of what happened in the past. This doesn’t mean that you have to forget about it entirely; it just means that you have to forgive one another so you can start with a clean slate. It’s about taking the emotion and anger out of the picture and agreeing to move forward together.

Be Honest About Your Feelings

Before moving forward, I suggest you talk about what happened. What did they do to you to make you feel like they were your enemy? You need to tell them what they did exactly and how it made you feel. You can expect them to share their feelings about what happened in the exact same way. Use “I feel… statements” so they understand how their actions hurt you. Don’t accuse them of anything or try to place blame on them. That’s a surefire way to keep an enemy rather than turn them into a friend.

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Share Some of the Responsibility 

Louisa May Alcott said, “It takes two flints to make a fire.” This means that you and your enemy are both responsible for the state of your relationship, so really think about the part you played. You can also try to relate to your enemy by looking for similarities between the two of you. Maybe you think they’re stubborn, but you could be stubborn too. Is it possible that the thing you don’t like about someone else is a quality you possess?

Think about why you are really mad at them. Did they break a promise they made to you? Have you ever broken a promise to anyone? Did they talk about you behind your back? Do you gossip about people? Can you really fault someone for something you’ve done or do on a regular basis? If you find that you’ve made mistakes in the relationship too, you need to apologize. When you apologize, you take “the high road.” It’s the mature choice to make.

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Bury the Hatchet

Did you know that the term “bury the hatchet” comes from an ancient tradition? “Burying the hatchet” refers to an Iroquois American Indian ceremony in which war axes or other weapons were literally buried in the ground as a symbol of newly made peace. Maybe one way of letting go of the situation would be to have each of you write down your feelings and then destroy those pieces of papers together. By going through the motions and actually destroying those negative anchors, you’ll attach a new, positive meaning to the situation.

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You Won’t Like Everyone and Everyone Won’t Like You

Understand that not everyone will like you and you can’t like everyone. It’s just a fact of nature. But if you’re willing to compromise with someone you’ve declared an enemy, then that’ll be the first step towards sharing good times with that person in the future, and hopefully being able to call them a friend.

10 thoughts on “Relationship Hacks: The Best Tips for Turning an Enemy Into a Friend

  1. Jenniffer

    If life were perfect then I would go with burying the hatchet but that’s not always the case. I have a sister that has had the same behavior her whole life. She takes advantage of people in everyway ( emotionally, financially and very manipulative.)
    She has been that way her whole life I have let my guard down on several occasions to be severed the same crap over and over again only because she is my sister. Sometimes it’s better to know that some people are poison in your life and it’s best that you stay far away. Some people may change, but black widows don’t they will always bite.

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  2. Mary

    AJAY

    I do not think that you asked our opinions, but in my humble opinion, I think that you should “RUN” and find someone who deserves you, is compatible with you, and an honest soul mate.

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  3. April

    I lost a friend about 2 months ago do to my being honest about the stresses he caused me. I had to stop seeing him because he stressed me out so much before he came over, so I had to end it. I know he won’t change, and I have a roommie now that can help me do the stuff that he helped me with, so I have no reason for him to be here, unless I want to put up with the mess he makes in my house when he’s here. The only reason I liked him was for coversation. Is that a good enough reason to try and apologise?

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  4. Erik

    To RAM: Write her an honest positive letter containing no negativity whatsoever. Give her a month to respond. If she does not respond in a month, write another one. In the mean time you need to get on with your life and be open to loving and being loved by others. You may or may not get her back. There are no guarantees. Become the best you can be in all areas of your life. Life is about evolving. We are all here to grow in wisdom and love. Be aware of the lessons in your life and learn them. <3

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  5. Ram

    It has been 7 yrs know that my wife and i spilt apart.She does not want to even talk to me.How can i talk to her and get her back thanks

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  6. AJAY

    YOU ARE SO RIGHT IN A RIGHT TIME, BECAUSE MY X WIFE BROKE UP WITH HER BOY FRIEND, SHE CHEATED ME 12 YEARS AGO AND WE GOT DIVORCED. NOW SHE IS IN THE SAME BOAT AND FEELING GUILT WHAT SHE HAD DONE. WE HAVE ONE DAUGHTER FROM MY X WIFE, SHE LEFT HER WITH ME, WHEN SHE WAS 4 YEARS OLD. NOW SHE IS 17TEEN YEARS OLD AND LIVING WITH ME FROM THAT TIME. I HAVE 100% CUSTODY OF HER. NOW SITUATION IS DIFFERENT. BUT ONE THING I WANT TO SHARE WITH YOU THAT IS TRUST. ONCE TRUST GONE THAN VERY DIFFICULT TO COME BACK. SO PLEASE GIVE ME THE RIGHT ADVICE. THANKS

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  7. Ben

    My ex wife stopped loving me many years before she asked for a divorce. I still love her but she has moved on with her life she is still single and I to am still singe as well. We both share the same problem no one to date here in our 60,s ok. I would still love to be back with my ex wife still.

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  8. Seren ext. 5445Psychic Seren, Ext 5445

    “Think about why you are really mad at them.”

    An excellent bit of advice, Tony.

    In the heat of the moment, our emotions can be confusing and we might think we are angry (or hurt) for one reason, when there is something else that actually underlays our perceived reasoning and people sometimes go years or even decades without understanding the true cause of their anger or hurt feelings.

    Helping callers delve into their emotional depths to find the actual root of an issue is one of the
    aspects I appreciate most about this work that I feel so blessed to be able to do; assisting a caller in setting past hurts to rest and creating peace with the past so they can move forward into happier and healthier relationships is absolute bliss.

    Brightest blessings,
    Seren, Ext 5445

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