Are You Ready to Invite Love Into Your Life?

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After a cold, dark winter, the arrival of spring is a welcome change of seasons. The birds start chirping, the flowers start blooming; everything starts to grow again. Getting ready for love to come into your life is much like the changing of seasons from winter to spring. But first, it’s important to know if you actually desire a change of seasons. Many of us get frozen in the same patterns and relationships, and the desire to change must be the first step toward preparing ourselves for love. This means we need to get honest with ourselves. If we desire a new love, we have to let the old one die.

This means not jumping from one relationship right into a new one. Many of us try this, and it never works. After ending a relationship, we must give ourselves space and time to reconnect, to learn to love ourselves, and to heal. There is no time limit for this process, as everyone has varied degrees of healing, depending on the relationship we’re healing from, and our own individual emotional patterns.

Once we heal, we must then determine what qualities we desire in a mate. Write these traits down, then see if we personally possess them as well. Many times, if we are not living consciously, we want certain things in others that we ourselves can not bring to the table. For instance, if we desire trust in our relationships, can we ourselves be trusted? If we desire financial stability, are we financially stable? Be honest with yourself, and if you find you’re lacking in certain qualities, work on those issues.

After we’ve done this internal self-evaluation, we have to then look at our attitudes. You’ll know when you’re ready for love because there are signs that point the way.

First, you’ll adopt a more mature outlook. We tend to be immature when we trade substance for superficial qualities, like wanting to date people because of their height, the color of their hair, the car they drive, or money they make. Instead, look at people for who they really are.

Unfortunately, sometimes when you think you’ve encountered someone who is seemingly perfect, an unfortunate event, a hurtful word, or misplaced trust will snap you back to reality. No one is perfect; everyone has flaws. The trick is finding someone whose flaws you can tolerate. When we become mature about our outlook, we make better decisions based on mature values.

Second, you’ll stop trying so hard. Some of us feel frantic, desperately looking for a new relationship. We may have several profiles on different dating websites, or date multiple people at the same time. We’re so consumed with finding “the one” that we can’t concentrate on anything else. When we’re relaxed, we feel good about who we are even when we’re single. We’re alone, but we aren’t lonely. In turn, we’re not exuding “desperation,” which, by the way, most can detect. The only people that will be attracted to this type of energy are those that want to capitalize on it. They will use and abuse you. Don’t make this mistake.

When you’ve reached a place where you’ve healed, corrected personal deficiencies, and changed your attitude, put forth the energy to meet new people. This means you take a balanced approach to meeting others. Provide doorways to meet new people. Take up new hobbies, mix and mingle with others, and get out of the house. Most of all, feel happy about it, and have great expectations.

6 thoughts on “Are You Ready to Invite Love Into Your Life?

  1. jthomas

    07/06/2016. “Oh My!” I thought I had problems! I’m alone,but not Lonely. But I hope and pray that I’ll never;
    ever, give up on LOVE or Letting love find Me!! I take my experiences As A Lesson; Learned.And move- fore-
    ward. We as women should’nt expect more than we’re able to give. First! take baby-steps in a ‘new’ relation-
    ship. One can only give another what ‘they’ have to give. And, our past experiences could not work-in-this-new-relationship! a different person; All together. Listen, and Discern, Learn.Forgive.others and Yourself.

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  2. Deanna thompson

    I don’t know how to feel about any of this. It a bunch of emotions of let downs. Thinking I found the right one to not be enough. I find a lost feeling. And wished I didn’t care when I do. The only one suffering is me and I’m not I’m bracing this as nothing but insults. I’m not interested in any of this and let go is all you want. I’m not going to love again because you burn me. You are high and mighty and I’m done with love.

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  3. Thomas Ellenbrook

    I just wanted to apologize to all of yall , and I hope that I have not offended any of y’all that was not my intention. You must trust me a little bit even if you don’t believe in me. I never thought I would see the day when my intire life would become folded inside out, but here it is. . I understand that you all are busy, however if any of you get bored before you get lazy hit me up. There is no way I can do everything all by myself..I feel like I am unstoppable, also known to be smashed, I tried in my hearts in site running through all projects and every time I was denied everything I wish am to accomplish. . What is it I wish to accomplish? I heard that before you read this, I am trying to assemble several business around the main foundation of ,
    Global-restart a chain of businesses that are going to restore not only faith in God, also helping out for , national disasters, the hungry children, good charities , maybe even change some laws I plan on starting an empire heading straight to world peace while in doing so making earth an much more cleaner environment saving animals, inventing new energy resources to totally eliminating pollution from power plants, safer and faster means of traveling long distance..I have miles of data and it hasn’t stopped, I stand for God he put us here on earth not to be earth’s cancer and try to kill her , but here we are saying FU God and keep destroying what once was a paradise, I am going to die trying my best to plant seeds around the world for them to blossom before it is to late. I know that I can start heaven has my back, therfore others will follow and then just maybe my great great grandchildren won’t be looking at old pictures saying teacher I wish I could go swim with manatees or even walk in the forest deer herd of animals won’t be asking what a red-tailed fox is , how about even eating fish that families catch while on a family field trip because of the chemicals tountwaters have produced..yes I am God’s son what do you think you can do about it, he is here with me with and Angeles are all around me as well, but here is the twisted up piece of the puzzle lololol….Each and everyone of all that is living on this Earth is his family also bothers and sisters we are to look out for each other not try and kill each other, reach out to help instead of walking over, turn and face each other with respect as equals, stop turning your dam backs , I can’t believe that dam idiots around the world are spending millions of dollars for weapons that are going to destroy earth, instead making her a more detailed efficient planet , I would love to send all them to a rock that has nothing then just maybe they would appreciate what they once had..sorry for being real, but remember God didn’t make me soft I am starting to understand why and his big beautiful picture…forever your friend Thomas Ellenbrook, “KEEP FAITH “

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  4. Heather

    My love is dead in heaven I wish he was with me he was the one until alcohol took over but no matter how many times I’ve been called an asshole, peed on ,cleaning puke and physically and verbally abused. I’d for him would do anything to b with him again

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  5. Thomas Ellenbrook

    I don’t want to sound naive, however I feel nobody on earth can preach to me about love, all my life I pored love for all and gotten so little in return, I can open up everyone’s heart with a little time, I made 300 lbs killer’s cry by my words, I know I been jammed up in a couple of pore decisions in the past, I did my punishment, also came out stronger, I always thought even when I were a child why did God put his son in such violence ,crime ,drugs, street gangs and I seen people get killed, beat to death , I stop a rap once, broken up fights, been jumped by mutable men, grew up getting beaten by my father, I was scared to come home most of time, therfore the only thing I can think of is when the time gets bad , which it is now , I am not going to be afraid of the noise, however after all this I been threw I still love everything I want to help everyone, I continue to help even though I get walked over and put down, I keep going pushing for peace in pores my heart for everything on earth, NOBODY SHOULD HAVE ANY FEAR ABOUT ME ,ALSO NOBODY NEEDS TO TELL ME ABOUT LOVE, I am going to ask all of you are you ready to receive love, a pure love, …when I do lock in with my partner if I find her she will be the happiest women on earth, she is going to feel free, safe, passion, weak legs, just look at my cheating ex after sex months of break up , she heard I was talking to other girl she started freaking out scared of never having me in her life again, why , hmmm I am not trying to use your group for money, I am going to tell you the truth, I want honest partners, and I need to learn more, so I am wanting to be shown so I can get a better idea on the fight, I am not perfect, but after being around me a few days, beware cuz you will be attached, I am a hard worker, and have street skills no money can buy, I have my own money coming from heaven, I flirt some but I can I’m single so what, I am not dead, also I am not white trash, don’t never disrespect me thinking I don’t know how to act right around your uppity type, I can move in and out of any crowd like a gentleman, I just hate being ALONE.

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  6. Lisa

    Very well said.. I had been dating this man for 9 months. Everything was going absolutely great, we were getting along, he acted like the perfect gentleman. I thought he was the prince charming that I had always dreamed of having after ending a bad relationship few months before. Little did I know, my “prince charming ” turned out to be the biggest failure I have ever experienced being in a relationship. Here I was thinking my last relationship was bad but this one took the cake. It was like I was in a nightmare that I just couldn’t wake out of when I found out who this man really was. It’s been 6 months and I still find myself sometimes reminiscing about how I missed all those little signs. Anyways, i had to forgive him for all that he did to me so I could move on with my life cz I realized that someone who could hurt another being like he hurt me must be dealing with something internally and he’s just putting up a mask to those who don’t know him. After thst experience, I’m taking some time to be single cz I’ve always found myself jumping from relationships to relationships. I’m learning to love myself more, really get to focus on what I’m looking for in a man/ husband and really letting them know front & forward what my expectations are and not settling for less just to be with someone. I just find myself going to the gym more, spending time with friends, focusing on my career and working and praying to the Lord to send me this special someone who will become my husband one day.

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