Men can make any number of mistakes in bed and it’s usually their ego that’s pushing them into certain assumptions or the avoidance of foreplay.
Avoid These Sexual Disasters, If You Can
Looking to bone up on your lover’s skills in the bedroom? Sometimes unlearning certain techniques is the way to go, so read on to improve your mojo by avoiding these sexual disasters likely to scare your lover away.
Pushing Her Into Anything
“No” does mean “no,” and to keep asking, begging or pushing her to do something she’s not comfortable with will backfire no matter the outcome. Either she’ll just be pissed off and high tail it out of there, or allow you to talk her into something that she will probably later resent you for.
Attaching Her Orgasm to Your Ego
As it can be more difficult for a woman to reach orgasm during sex, you should never take her lack of peak pleasure as a personal attack on your manhood (unless she’s evil and says as much, or your bedside manner is so poor that you completely disregard her needs and body cues). Better to ask her what she likes and doesn’t like when you are intimate, and be honest about how much you want to pleasure her. If she says that it’s not you, but a temporary response to outside factors, let it go and don’t personalize it! That phrase, “It’s about the journey and not the destination.” may apply here too in her mind, so focus on the special things you two do share during your intimate moments.
Presuming She Likes it Rough
While pleasuring a man seems to be easier, quicker, and more straightforward, the consensus seems to be that satisfying a woman takes a little more finesse and technique. While men may like rougher stimulation, that’s not necessarily the woman’s preference. Changing up the pressure and angles as well as being in tune with her pleasure is the only way to go.
The Ol’ Role Over and Pass Out Routine
Okay, it’s likely that both of you are tired after a great romp, but take the extra minute or two to cuddle, kiss her, and tune into her. Sex is intimate, and even if she is just as into it as you, it doesn’t mean that she wouldn’t appreciate a little sweetness afterwards in lieu of completely tuning her out. If she has expressed or shown you that this is unimportant to her, by all means carry on. But never presume that comatose behavior after sex will make her think highly of you.
“Sex is an action of the body. Love is an action of the heart.” – Psychic Quinn ext. 5484
Forgoing the Foreplay
As women usually take a little more rev-up time, just jumping straight into the main event will most likely not win you major points (and probably leave you working twice as hard to make up for your inadequate setup efforts). Everyone knows the buildup makes it all the better in the end, so unless she’s the one racing to the finish line, don’t forget a proper warm-up!