Communicate with Men: How to Flirt, Fight, and Connect

Understanding How to Get Through to Men

It’s frustrating for a woman when a man gives no clues that he’s listening to her — such as nodding his head or maintaining eye contact — or when he cuts her off abruptly and asks, “What’s your point?” It doesn’t matter if the man is her boyfriend, brother, or boss; they all seem impatient or uncaring. Learn how to communicate with men in many different ways.

Say What They Expect to Hear

Though women cannot make men listen better, they can change the way they speak so that men will be more inclined to listen to them, according to Marian K. Woodall, author of “How to Talk So Men Will Listen.” Men expect to hear the point of the conversation right away, followed by only a few essential details. Therefore, women should avoid giving explanations or other bits of information that build up to the point. You can always give additional information later in the conversation when requested. Woodall warns, however, that men often don’t want as many details as women would like to offer. Get personalized advice, contact a psychic today!

Sit Next to Them, Not Across From Them

Sitting next to a man, rather than directly across from him, will prevent triggering his competitive instincts, reports Corrie Pikul in the Oprah.com article “How to Connect With the Men in Your Life.” Whether in the board room or on your living room sofa, your chances of him opening up will be better if you position your body in a nonconfrontational manner.

Don’t Just Sit There

Better yet, if you are in a situation that does not require sitting while you’re talking, Pikul advises women to take a walk or play a sport while having the conversation. Girls grow up having marathon talk sessions at slumber parties or chatting over meals, but boys grow up bonding while skateboarding, bike riding, or playing sports. These habits carry over into adulthood; therefore, talking while walking or moving in some way improves women’s chances of engaging men in conversation.

Speak Their Language

Women will get better results in any sort of conversation with men when they speak their language. For example, don’t ask a man how he feels about something; instead, ask what he thinks about it. Men are more comfortable discussing their thoughts than their feelings. And if you want him to do you a favor, don’t ask “Can you please…?” Instead, ask, “Will you please…?” The first approach sounds too challenging.

“In most cases, partners can learn how to cut each other some slack, when it’s truly warranted.” – Giovanna ext. 5214

Give Them Space

If the subject you want to discuss is heavy, try to break your discussion into several sessions so that he doesn’t feel overwhelmed or trapped. Your first session can simply state what topic you want to discuss and then ask when he would like to continue the discussion. That way, you are giving him some time to retreat and gather his thoughts. The second session can be used for discussing the available options or other possible actions. The third session can be used to decide what action to take. The final session can focus on the results of the action.

The main thing for women to remember is that men need their space, both physically and emotionally. When women push in too much, men tend to click into their primal fight-or-flight mode. They will either get defensive or back away altogether. When that happens, it is best for women to let them escape to their “man cave” until they are ready to try again. If it’s important, they’ll come back. And when they do, get right to the point!

“Picking your battles is of utmost importance. Sometimes we take things too personally, when in reality 99% of what a person does is not about us.” – Giovanna ext. 5214

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6 thoughts on “Communicate with Men: How to Flirt, Fight, and Connect

  1. Aida Bon

    When can we expect an article: HOW TO FLIRT, FIGHT AND CONNECT WITH WOMEN? We are always reading articles about how to please men. Here in Holland we daily see adds how to learn belly dancing, pole dancing, dieting, breast implantations, sexy lingery etc etc…..

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  2. Ketmony

    Dear writer,

    As I am not much experience …I would like to take this method to practice my living way…
    Many many thanks…
    Ketmony

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  3. Angela

    I like what you are saying about talking to men in general whether its your boyfriend or a coworker. They are still the same in their listening modes on the defense !

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  4. Reed x 5105Reed x 5105

    Great article and great points.
    I think that most men really appreciate the one about breaking conversations down into smaller sessions. When a woman brings something to a man’s attention, she has had the opportunity to take time to really think about it and process it before speaking. The man, however, is hearing it for the first time and is expected to talk about it in depth without any processing time what so ever.

    It is sometimes best to talk about it a little and then let him have the same opportunity that you had – to process his thoughts, sleep on it, look at different angles, then return to the discussion.

    Standing side by side or engaging in an activity is also great. I’ve seen minor disagreements become deal-breaking arguments when a woman demands that her man stand face to face and look at her directly in the eyes while they talk about something emotionally charged. For some men, this is on a par with challenging him to a dual. His defenses are heightened and you are less likely to get the response that you want.

    Reed x5105

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  5. Gina Rose ext.9500Gina Rose ext.9500

    While these are generalizations…..

    ” Therefore, women should avoid giving explanations or other bits of information that build up to the point. You can always give additional information later in the conversation when requested. Woodall warns, however, that men often don’t want as many details as women would like to offer. ”

    I agree with the line from above taken from the article , keep it short and to the point.
    If he’s really interested he’ll come back and want more details.

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  6. Elean J

    “Picking your battles is of utmost importance. Sometimes we take things too personally, when in reality 99% of what a person does is not about us.”
    Very important.

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