How to Find Your Tribe

How to Find Your Tribe

Your Tribe is Waiting for You

Loneliness is one of the byproducts of our natural need to love and be loved. For some people, a tribe of one soulmate is all they need to find happiness, while others need a larger support system to quench their thirst. But regardless of the type of person you are, finding your tribe is always the first step to conquering those feelings of being lost, misunderstood and without anyone to talk to. Here’s how to do it.

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Be Yourself

Some people would rather try and fit in with a group, than find a group they naturally fit in with. Why twist your values, interests and comforts, pretending to be someone you aren’t? Your tribe should have a “come as you are” attitude. If you pretend to be someone you aren’t, you sabotage your own happiness. Instead, go out and seek the things that bring you, and like-minded people, joy.

Speak Up

We censor ourselves far too much. It’s great to hug the fence as a diplomatic soul, but one way to find fellow tribe members quickly is to express your thoughts openly. Who are you really hiding from? Unfortunately, it is mostly from yourself if you deny the world your honest opinions and ideas. So when somebody asks you, go ahead and tell them what you really think (using a little compassion, of course).

Seek a Time and Place

But before you let your opinions and feelings fly, make sure the time and place are appropriate. Make sure you will be heard and what you say will be appreciated. Just having one belief in common with a group of people is all you really need to find your tribe.

Share Your Knowledge

Sharing knowledge is the biggest thing you can do to win the acceptance of anyone. Offer your help to people whenever you get a chance. No matter how busy you are, remember that your gift of knowledge will be reciprocated with acceptance, confidence and a feeling of connection to others.

Start Your Own Tribe

If after searching you don’t find a tribe that fits your needs, create your own. There are like minded people out there who share your feelings, beliefs and hobbies, so make it easy for them to find you. You may think you’re too much of an individual, but the truth is that everyone benefits from being part of a community, and you will find yours.

And remember, we are all part of one big community—the human community, so you already belong to a big and important tribe. And the human community is part of an even bigger community—the community of all living creatures. The truth is you already belong; you just need to feel like you do.

7 thoughts on “How to Find Your Tribe

  1. Marc from the UK

    Such a great article.

    I am learning we cannot please all the people all the time. I have decided to be an individual, which I have always been, I am kind, fair, loving and thoughtful, SO why cash that in to please the pack?

    I have been alienated, ridiculed and shunned, BUT,I am the happiest I have been, and I have also learned that people are now coming to me for help, advice and to be a friend. the moral I guess is I was secretly admired for being just me, and do not need to be a pack animal to have attention and affection.

    Please be strong and enjoy the challenge life raises , as results are not results without test !

    Marc 🙂

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  2. Angie

    David, you need to fight against your fears by all cost. Make new friends learn to dance, country dancing is really good. Do what makes you feel better. Don’t let that one girl make you feel like a loser there is no telling what she is fighting. A family that won’t hear your story is not your family. You need friends that need you… Good luck…!!1

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  3. Gina Rose ext.9500Gina Rose ext.9500

    By the way, to all of the other readers…the comment about the Shetland pony and the Thoroughbred is an inside horse talk comment. Anybody who has spent extensive time with ponies and horses will get that.. humor.

    So David, keep looking for a lady who’s not barn-sour ( another bit of inside horse talk…lol ) ….she’s out there.

    Blessings to all. !
    Gina Rose ext.9500

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  4. Gina Rose ext.9500Gina Rose ext.9500

    Dear David,

    Just some advice, I’m sorry the women in your life have so mistreated you, maybe you were attracted to the wrong type of woman to begin with ???? Kind of like trying to turn a stubborn Shetland pony into a Thoroughbred….LOL

    All women, just like horses, are not the same. ….so don’t give up your search !!!! By the way, I used to own horses and still am active in rescuing abused horses.

    Getting involved with rescue groups for horses, hooved animal humane society for example , would help you to meet ladies who love horses , who love the outdoors, and don’t mind getting a bit dirty…lol…. It would help, if your future gal like horses by the way, but I’m sure you know that. Even donating an hour or two a week might put you in the right place to meet with and network with the right people….leading to your special lady.

    Our mistakes really are tools by which we grow, learn life lessons, and evolve. EVERYBODY makes mistakes, but the trick is to learn from past mistakes and not repeat them. Let go of the baggage, every gal is different, as every horse is different. Keep your eyes AND heart open.

    I feel , for you, the right gal will come along within the next 18 months for you….so says my Guides.

    Blessings to you and please keep your eyes and heart open.
    Gina Rose ext.9500

    David Champ January 7, 2016 at 4:38 pm

    I work with thorougbreds I feel very alienated at work and were ilive I always felt that way I live for the horses I get shamed and ridiculed by other people because I don’t want to date I feel that woman have mistreated and shamed me I had one girl her name is Denise treat me really bad last year my sister dosnt want to talk to me ever again most of my family are distant I feel very ignored by woman and don’t pay them any attention either you know the song worlds apart”by vince gill? that s how feel about woman relating o me I feel llke im words
    apart from them any idea for a remedy?

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  5. susan

    I so much feel for you. Sometimes it takes years to feel comfortable with who you are, but that doesnt mean there is anything wrong with you. I’ve had a life of struggle, but now, at 63yrs old, can honestly say that I’m happy with who I am. Have learnt that happiness starts within yourself. You really don’t need anyone elses’ approval.

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  6. David Champ

    I work with thorougbreds I feel very alienated at work and were ilive I always felt that way I live for the horses I get shamed and ridiculed by other people because I don’t want to date I feel that woman have mistreated and shamed me I had one girl her name is Denise treat me really bad last year my sister dosnt want to talk to me ever again most of my family are distant I feel very ignored by woman and don’t pay them any attention either you know the song worlds apart”by vince gill? that s how feel about woman relating o me I feel llke im words
    apart from them any idea for a remedy?

    Reply

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