Do Guys Lose Their Sex Drive as Relationships Progress?

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Do guys lose their sex drive as their relationships progress? Once they have what they want, are they less likely to want to come back for more?

The Huffington Post reports:

Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do guys tend to want to have sex less often as a relationship progresses? Is that normal, or is that a sign that a relationship is on the outs?” To ask the guys your own question, click here.

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Straight Married Guy (Figleaf): It’s generally not a sign that the relationship is on the outs. It can be a symptom of a relationship that’s otherwise on the outs. But I think it’s at least as likely for sex to be the only thing that still “works” in a relationship that’s otherwise long gone. (See also: “sex, ex.”)

Yeah, I’m going to go a little further out on a limb and say that at least to the extent that men grow up conditioned to equate sex with acceptance, a bit of “cooling” ardor might correspond with a warming of his heart and a growing sense of security with you.

Or not. He could just have found someone new! He could be quite committed but taking your relationship a bit for granted! Or, especially in longer-term relationships, his libido might not be keeping up with yours, such that he’s still totally satisfied, while your libido’s stayed constant or even started to climb a bit.

Do none of those answers seem interesting or reassuring? Good! Heres why: “Does he or doesn’t he” kinds of tea-leaf reading always works better in the pages of Cosmothan in real life. Not sure how your relationship is going? Ask. (But clue: Cosmo fear-mongering notwithstanding, he may be very surprised that you’re worried.)

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What do you think—do men really lose their juice as they get bored?

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