8 Ways to Nurture Romance

Birds dance, flirt, and posture to attract a mate… and so do humans. Trouble is, even in new relationships, we may quickly forget how the dance of love is supposed to go. Here’s a fun refresher course in common sense love language that may give you a few delightful aha! moments while your partner snuggles up and adores you.

1. Watch your body language. Your mouth might say, “Yes, thank you” but your posturing says, “I couldn’t be less interested.” Most interaction with your loved one happens in the evening. You’re tired from work. Your gaze wanders, eyes unfocused; you yawn, with shoulders slumped and sagging, Not a great message. Snap out of it!

2. Do something surprising. Plan and execute a date totally out of your norm. If you always do movies, try a concert or a beach picnic, even by moonlight. If you always wear conservative clothes, break out into vivid color for a day. If you’re a steak and potatoes person, live on the edge and suggest French cuisine for dinner. Skip missionary position and do something earthy.

3. Don’t slack. Couples get comfortable and complacent with each other. Nothing is nicer than feeling relaxed, but don’t fall into risky romance-killers. Fuss a little. Ladies, shave the legs. Gentlemen, pluck the nose and ear hairs. Hold a door open. Fluff up his pillow.

4. Leave ball and chain jokes to Al Bundy and Joan Rivers. It’s true – if you can’t say anything nice, your love life may suffer. Gentle humor that includes your partner, like sweet inside jokes, is delicious. However, jibes and digs at another’s expense do nothing to endear you. Want to get lucky? Don’t make unfortunate remarks about your lover.

5. Let everyone know you’re in love with your guy or girl. Touch their shoulder gently just to say, “I’m here for you.” Lightly hold their hand in the car, at the dinner table, when walking. Morning kisses and evening hugs can’t ever be overdone. Those things say so much.

6. Be nice. Pick up a tiny bouquet of flowers on the way home. Put a little potted plant on his desk. Hand her four perfect gourmet chocolate truffles on a Sunday afternoon, and don’t ask to share. Women love to be pampered, and so do men. Go a bit out of your way to show how special your partner is.

7. Make time. You’re busy. Everyone is busy. You’re obligated to honor the worth of your lover and your partnership. Ten minutes at the day’s end is not tough. An extra cup of coffee in the morning instead of rushing out the door makes the day prettier for both. Turning off the cell phone for an hour’s drive in the country is a fantastic way to show that you treasure what you have.

8. Be a good listener. Close lips and open ears when your partner needs someone to commiserate. Offer advice only when asked. Act as if you don’t have casual solutions to every problem. Take it all in like you care. Give positive feedback, and then a long, warm, it’ll be ok hug.

It doesn’t take much effort to forge a healthy, pleasurable bond between lovers. It’s easy to forget how important romantic actions and words are, but you’ll be surprised at how good it feels to get back to love basics. Start today and reap the benefits for a long, long time.

What are your favorite ways to fan the flames of romance?

15 thoughts on “8 Ways to Nurture Romance

  1. Fran

    It is so important to keep those flames of excitement alive… A smouldering look thay says I want you now.. sweet notes in his picked… sex texts during the day will speed his arrival home… and wanting you so much…. Remember that love is like a plant.. feed it and it will grow and prosper.. dont and it will wilt and die… love your partner like you just met him and fall madly in love with him over and over… you will enjoy a passionate life.. filled with joy and wonder.. and in the golden years. you can see we did not just ok.. BUT SPENDIDLY FANTASTIC…

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  2. lynn Sigman

    I have left a shattered relationship and having difficult moving on, but just met a really nice kind man who seems interested. How do I respond without overwhelming him. I am missing being loved

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  4. Arjun singh

    overcaring of parterner may become a complicacy for other partner. this artical is very thought provoking. in any relation trust is must.manipulation in relation may ruin the loving relationship.

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  10. anaselax5154anaselax5154

    Hi Taryn,

    The golden rule is” You can’t receive what you don’t have to give”.

    Thanks for a great article.

    Blessings,
    Anasela@5154

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  11. Jacqueline

    Hi Taryn,

    Very thought provoking article, one thing that couples makes the biggest mistakes is when they become comfortable in the relationship and not take care of the other partner, but assume, that they don’t need to continue to nurture the relationship.

    It is important that you put your-self in your partners shoes, be compassionate, understand never assume this can be a big mistake.

    Blessings and Big Hugs!
    Jacqueline x9472

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  12. velvetoversteel

    All relationships take work. Even those that come easy at first, such as soulmate connections. So many times people forget to put forth any effort, but still expect their partner, child, friend to just know that they care. It doesn’t work that way. Do things for other people, the same way you like things done for you! 🙂 Great advie and remnders, Taryn!!
    Hugs and Blessings!
    Coreen

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  13. Gina Rose ext.9500Gina Rose ext.9500

    Hi,
    Good article…..all valid points.

    In short, even a great relationship with a strong Karmic connection, takes some maintenance and effort to keep it alive and fresh…..

    Relationships are like houseplants…..takes a bit of TLC , and feeding to help them thrive and grow.

    Blessed Be )O(
    Gina Rose ext.9500

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