All The Questions to Ask Before Starting an Office Romance

All The Questions to Ask Before Starting an Office Romance

Are You Ready for an Office Romance?

There are only a handful of reasons why most people pursue an office romance, with genuine interest, excitement, and promotion being among the top three. The jobs that are most likely to spawn an office romance include human resources, real estate, marketing/advertising and publishing. The jobs least likely to sprout love at work involve art, fashion design, agriculture, transportation and accounting. And while it may feel right to lead with your heart, there are six important questions you should answer before you proceed, as both your job and reputation could be at stake.

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Are the Feelings Mutual?

You might be attracted to them, but are they really attracted to you too? Are you taking a little harmless flirting for attraction and the desire to date? This is important because if the other person is expressing real interest in you too, then you know it’s a mutual, serious attraction. But if the attraction is one-sided, you’re not getting the green light to pursue them romantically.

Do You Have More to Lose Professionally?

I’m all for gender equality in the workplace, but a lot of companies haven’t received that memo. The reality for women is that they get chastised more for office romances than men do, according to surveys. Women are more likely to hurt their chances for career advancement and their reputations could suffer greater than the men they have office relationships with.

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Is an Office Romance Against Company Policy?

Many companies frown upon coworkers dating. It doesn’t matter if it’s a supervisor and a direct report, or two people on the same level—it can be a human resources nightmare, and you could lose your job over it. Check with your company’s HR department before you pursue a romance with a coworker. Even if you keep things professional during work hours, you’re could still be taking a huge risk. And if you’re crushing on your boss, know it’s pretty difficult to be in a romantic relationship with someone who calls the shots at work, knows how much you make, and has the power to fire you.

Is There a Moral Issue?

If one or both of you are married or in a long-term, committed relationship, you could ruin your professional reputations if your relationship is discovered. And ladies, you’ll do the most damage to your professional reputations. Think about all that collateral damage and what kind of drama could ensue at work if your partner catches wind of your affair.

Can You Keep a Secret?

Of course you can’t—that was a trick question! The truth is, you don’t have to tell anyone about your office romance because people will already know or at least suspect it. You won’t hide it as well as you think.

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Do You Have an Exit Strategy?

What are you prepared to do if your office romance fails? Are you prepared for how it could impact your family? Are you prepared for how it could impact your job and career? The consequences of breaking up with a coworker never seem small. Even if you aren’t cheating on a significant other with them, you still have to work with this person every day, and it’s going to be awkward. Consider having an exit strategy, whether it’s moving to another department or being prepared to leave the company.

Make Some Ground Rules

Okay, so you’ve decided to pursue an office relationship despite all the challenges that could arise. What are your next steps? You need to set up some ground rules. How will you act at work? Who will you tell about your relationship? Who won’t you tell? What will you do if the relationship doesn’t last? Make sure you both understand what your relationship is really about. Discuss your expectations.

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Proximity, Commonality and Perfection

Office romances are convenient. We spend so much of our time at work, it seems only natural to date someone we work with. You also have a lot in common with your coworkers, or so it seems. At least you can commiserate about your job struggles together. And everyone puts their best face forward at work. Whether it’s how they dress or how they behave, you’re seeing a more polished version of who they really are. So if you’re considering pursuing an office relationship, go into it with realistic expectations and do whatever you can to protect yourself and your career. An office romance is not necessarily a fairy tale romance!

3 thoughts on “All The Questions to Ask Before Starting an Office Romance

  1. Midwestern Bunny

    I agree, excellent article. There is so much to lose with office romances and very little if anything to gain. My soon to be ex-husband got involved at work with a married woman and I was devastated. However, a psychiatrist assured me that affairs like this one only have a 4% survival rate.

    Of course the other woman dumped my ex after two months and serving me divorce papers and went back to her own husband. I never looked back and welcomed the new pathway in my life. My husband lost all respect at work, with some friends and most importantly his immediate family.

    Affairs like this may appear to be the real deal, but the anguish and harm they cause so many others doesn’t justify the means. I believe everything in life happens for a reason whether we see it or not at the time. And ultimately our choices are just that. Our own. Can’t take back a mistake like an affair, but can certainly take steps and responsibility to avoid i too.

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  2. francine

    I don’t see anything to wrong with it as long as the 2 of them know that you keep if personal with in they self and not act like ass by getting up sat went doing his or her job went talking with other it can be a good thing or a not so good thing .I know some friend of my work in the same place and know one know not until he say that he is getting marriage every one say to how you never talk about anyone or say that you was date in one he say I know I don’t put my business out there like that so every say went or you going to bring her to the job so we can meet her he say to every she is here some one O she can up here so use going out for dinner he say yes went he say her name every one just look and say O my god or you kidding me all this time for 2 years use didn’t act like use didn’t care about one anther all you word say is hi ask her is you all right and she word just I am fine will in joy your weekend and have fun she word O ill will this went on for 2 years and why know one is because she act like she could not stand him she word roll her eyes and say thing like he is not all that use worker full in all over him use can’t do you job went every time he walk by to say all that he will go for the one that keep working and pay him know mine .
    I try it ones and I still have feeling for him but he like some one younger then me I didn’t like it but I understand it cause you see I am 35 years old then him god know if I was 30 years young I word be all over him but he happy he just have a baby boy I wish him the best he will all way be in my heart .so you see it can work it is up to that person and how they act on the job

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  3. Psychic Pauline

    Excellent article, Eric. I have spoken to many callers on this subject and the best advice that I can offer is not to do it. No matter how much you think you are prepared for these “office romances,” they will fail. Either the affair will end or your employment will. I have yet to see these affairs become significant and/or long term relationships.

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