How to Conquer Loneliness

Psychics tell how to combat isolation

Some people believe that loneliness is a sign of our times, while others believe it has always existed as part of the human condition. After all, we come into this life and leave it alone. But intense loneliness and a sense of isolation can lead to depression, illness, sleep issues and general unhappiness.

California Psychics deal with the issues of isolation 24/7 as callers attempt to get through their empty days and nights with questions regarding a more connected future. Our psychics believe that there is much that each and every one of us can do for ourselves to overcome the feelings of unnecessary loneliness.

Callers ask: Why am I alone? Why didn't I find my soulmate? Others work 12-hour days, sleep a lot, spend money they don't have and use shopping, alcohol or drugs to combat these feelings, tell our psychics who include the mending of broken hearts among their specialties. Some callers are lonely because they are new to a strange city and have not yet met friends. And there are many who are waiting for a special love - their soulmate - to cure them of their unwanted solitude.

What's most important when it comes to dealing with whichever brand of loneliness we suffer from, is that we understand the distinction between loneliness and being alone, our psychics tell us. Marceea ext. 9118, an Intuitive, who is also a trained marriage and family counselor, tells a wonderful story about what happened after she read a book about an unpopular pig to a class of five-year-olds. It creates an insightful reference for us all! She asked the children if they knew the difference between the two concepts ("loneliness" and "being alone"). A little boy waved his hand eagerly, saying, "I know, I know… Being alone is when you don't have any brothers and sisters: loneliness is when you do but they won't play with you."

We are part of a big universe… we have created communities around us of family, friends, neighbors, faith, special interests… and yet understanding that doesn't always fill the longing and isolation. We are at our loneliest when we don't know who we are and don't love and appreciate ourselves. "Loneliness can isolate us not just from other people, but also from ourselves and our true nature," Marceea maintains.

Plus, there's the fantasy that a soulmate will heal us from our loneliness. "People will fight tooth and nail to make that dream happen, believing that until they find that person they cannot be happy," reports Debra ext. 9596 from 30 years of experience as a spiritual counselor. Through doing years of readings, psychics understand that being in a bad relationship makes us lonelier than if we are on our own. "And, not all of us are meant to find a life partner. In fact many," Debra believes, "are meant to love and enjoy several partners or soulmates in this life."

"Some callers blame their loneliness on others, believing they are lonely because people do not respond to them, or visit, or take an interest in them," one psychic observes. Take responsibility for your own happiness and say, "I am lonely, how can I change that for myself," she prescribes.

"Get to know and love yourself to defeat loneliness," advises Debra. "Because who could possibly know how to make you happy, better than you? People find an overwhelming sense of fulfillment, when they follow their correct path."

Our psychics conclude that it's best to learn to find happiness for yourself, don't wait for someone else to bring it to you. Also, use your confidence to get out, start conversations, interact and volunteer.

Being alone, on the other hand (which is not the same as being lonely), can be an important part of our spiritual journey. "It is crucial to go within and connect with our divine nature through meditation or anything that quiets the mind, such as walking, hiking, or sitting on the beach and allowing the sound of the waves to wash over you," Marceea explains.

Human beings need time to be alone. Yet some mistake it for loneliness. Those people may have to discipline themselves to relax and enjoy life, without constantly having someone else beside them!