You Can't Always Get What You Want

But you get what you need

"Hey, universe!" you call out looking around at the abundance surrounding everyone but you. When struggles with love or finances are stressing you out, it's not uncommon to ask, "What about me? Why can't I have love and money, a nice car and a home of my own - a successful business and a family?"

It's only human to look around and compare one's lot in life with the seemingly more carefree existences of those around us who seem to have it all. And even worse, the media deluges us with stories about the rich, famous and beautiful with their gorgeous kids and mates, dream jobs, multiple residences and shopping sprees that would cover our cost of living for decades. Even though most of us aren't holding out for lives that large, under the circumstances, it's not difficult to feel that we came up short when the good luck got passed around. Why is life so unfair?

Why can't I have it all… you wonder.

Our psychics, who deal with wishes, dreams, wants and needs on an everyday basis with callers, have two important messages for those of us who are looking for the answer to the question of why so many things seem to pass us by in life… looks can be deceiving and we can get more of what we want with a simple shift in mindset.

Looks can deceive
"Everyone has problems in some aspect of their life," says Serafina ext. 9407 - from years of experience talking to customers from all walks and tax brackets of life. "Many people want you to believe their life is perfect in all ways. Do not compare yourself to others, unless you have all the facts," she warns.

"Sometimes despite our best efforts the universe does not see fit to grant us what we feel we deserve," explains Inez ext. 9581. "Often there are life lessons to be learned, karmic debts to be paid, and in many cases not getting what we want has to do with timing and astrology."

"Without the adversity of not getting all of our wants and needs fulfilled, we would not have reasons to learn our life lessons," believes Laura ext. 9555 and Ron ext. 9545. "As long as there's something to strive for, we don't feel vacant," Ron emphasizes.

Be grateful
Despite these spiritual insights, callers often feel punished when they can't have it all… or they lose what they did have. Some people self-sabotage when they have the possibility of having it all, while others plainly are ungrateful for what they do have, our psychics tell us. So much of having it all is a matter of attitude and perception on the part of the seeker. Be grateful for what you do have and then watch how life will fill each of your cups with abundance, they say.

Another psychic explains, "I have a client who is always looking at what others have. She drives a beautiful car, has a beautiful home, money… and yet she repeatedly asks, 'What about me?' The psychic sees that her client actually has the possibility for a relationship at her fingertips, but she keeps finding inconsequential faults with the person, thereby preventing it from ever blossoming into the loving nurturing relationship she sees.

Inez had a client who was miserable because her life was so empty of the things that she believed everyone else was enjoying. Her husband had died, she had difficulties with her health and career, and she truly felt she was paying penance for an unknown misdeed. During her calls to Inez, the psychic asked her to focus on gratitude. "The love, comfort and understanding she is now receiving from others is beginning to enrich her life," tells Inez.

"Not being able to have it all  is such a familiar theme in readings that my first response," says Inez, "is to ask callers to analyze the question, itself... Where did that idea come from? When do you remember first hearing or asking the question?" When clients see that they haven't upgraded their thinking since childhood, they are often shocked at their lack of gratitude for the people, places, events and circumstances that are working in their adult lives. With this newfound understanding, many clients move on to see the joy in their lives and find that they have a greater aptitude for attaining fulfillment.

Practice the very popular "Laws of Attraction" say our psychics, and you'll move yourself into the direction of achieving more of the things you want in life. You can't necessarily have it all, they say, but you can have much more than you think. "Being thankful for our blessings is key," says Meryl ext. 9376. "Gratitude draws positive power towards you and strengthens your will -and your will is your own psychic power."