Can a Sexless Marriage Work?

Living happily ever after without sex

How important is sex in a marriage? How important is no sex in a marriage? Any way you look at it, our California Psychics team, who deal with these issues day in and day out, concur that a couple must address what is or isn't going on in their union sexually in order to be true to themselves, each other and to the relationship itself.

But what if a love relationship is quite good in most ways, there is friendship and love and respect for instance, but it has always been (or it has become) sexless - can it last happily ever after?

Nunu ext. 9504 spoke for the majority of our psychics who believe, "People are fooling themselves if they're involved and not sexually compatible. In time they will not have a healthy love relationship. Sex is extremely important in mature relationships. The main sign of a dead-end marriage or affair is not being able to imagine yourself intimate with your mate anymore."

It's shocking how many love relationships are passionless, say our psychics. Most people in the world need some kind of intimacy or passion or they end up looking elsewhere! They spoke of marriages which have never been consummated, relationships where there has been no sex since the last baby ways born, cases where issues of intimacy or sexual compatibility have left couples avoiding lovemaking, even sleeping in separate rooms…

If you're in a relationship where you click on every level but the sexual attraction, then it's time for some examination. Some relationships are simply meant to be full of mutual adoration, respect and joy but nothing more - and a good sign that this person isn't the one! some of our psychics believe. 

If sex drives are mismatched, our astrologers say they can see it in a couple's astrological chart. "I do point it out because this will be a problem. Highly sexual people will seek to have this need met with a partner who is also highly sexual. It is important to be honest with ourselves regarding who we are and what we need and to join with partners who are right for us," one popular psychic reveals.

"I had a woman call yesterday," Nunu continues, "who wanted to know if a man at work liked her. I can't tell you how many calls a day I get like this from both men and women. I spread the Tarot and see the answer, but then the cards begin to tell me the whole story. I told this particular caller that yes the man was interested, but her husband and his wife would be very unhappy about it. I told the caller that it looked like she hadn't been sexually active for over four years and I was right."

People call and ask about staying with their spouse but secretly enjoying "friends with benefits," our psychics tell us. "This more often than not is just another road to heartbreak. Eventually you or the person you're cheating with will want more and you won't be free to move on. Or in many cases, they're only interested in you because you aren't available. These relationships end up making everyone crazy. People end up not liking who they become, or resentful of having to live the life of a cheater," says Nunu. "I tell them that if they can't imagine ever not having sex again in their entire life because they have chosen to stay in their current sexless situation, then for the happiness of everyone involved, they should free themselves and their spouse by leaving."

On the other hand, if both parties are not interested in sex, then this type of relationship can work as well as any where both parties enjoy and engage in regular sexual intercourse, some intuitives say. It depends on the two people involved and how they come to this agreement.

"I know a couple who have been together so many years, I can't count. They adore each other, but it is now impossible for them to have a sexual relationship as the man has physical problems that prevent it," says Debra ext. 9596.

I read for a pair who live quite happily together without intercourse. For them a love relationship that includes holding hands, hugging or looking into each other's eyes, takes the place of sex, reports
a Clairvoyant. 

When there is sexual incompatibility, sometimes you can work with your partner and improve upon the practice of intimacy, our psychics say. However, if you dread sex with your partner it's only fair to leave so that each person can have their needs met in life.

To conclude, if both parties agree to a sexless union and they are both being honest about their lack of desire for sex,  then it can work - but this is rare. If one partner truly desires sex while the other does not, it is a recipe for heartbreak and unhappiness in the end. The bottom line is to always be true to your deepest desires.