Is it Love?
I have been seeing someone off and on for the past three years (this has been mostly my doing). There's a big age difference between us. We met in 2004, so I know I was very over my past relationship. Can you tell me what's going on? I'm ready for a commitment. My new friend is everything I've always wanted. Is there a future?
Delores in St. Louis, MO
Hello Delores,
You and your sweetie are both earth signs and certainly hook up in the physical/sensual department! You have Sun (individuality), Mercury (mental outlook), Venus (love) and Saturn (responsibility) in Virgo, indicating you're very detail-oriented with an urge to heal or help others. With Saturn, the planet of commitment, transiting into Virgo earlier this month, I can see why you're ready for a stable relationship. And Capricorn is usually all about stability! Your guy has Sun, Moon and Mercury in Capricorn, making him very enterprising. Capricorn and Virgo are typically quite compatible. However, there's a catch here, which may or may not affect your relationship. Your guy's natal Uranus afflicts his Sun, Moon and Mars. Uranus aspects bring out one's rebellious side and a tendency toward extremes in self-expression, making relationships difficult. Moreover, he has Venus in Aquarius afflicted by Saturn. This indicates he may be conflicted about independence versus commitment. If he has an outlet for his Uranian/Aquarian traits, such as a job in a humanitarian or technology field, then it will be easier for him to settle down. He has Mars (sexuality) in headstrong Aries, which is a steamy tie with your Moon (emotions) and Mars in passionate Scorpio. However, Scorpio is a controlling sign, so you'll need to avoid that behavior with him or else suffer a monumental clash of wills. Jupiter transiting through Capricorn through 2008 is an expansive influence for both of you and may bring you closer together. If you allow each other room to grow, your relationship may grow as well.
Best of luck,
Cortney
All in a Dream
I keep seeing my husband in my dreams with other women. He died suddenly of a massive heart attack 2-1/2 years ago at age 49. When he sees me in the dream he talks to me for a moment and then he's gone again. He was a very loving husband and father - a very good man. I miss him so much.
Vickie in Hoopeston, IL
Hello Vickie,
I believe you're actually visiting with your husband in the afterlife during your dreams. Loved ones on the "other side" will often communicate to us through our dreams. After all, the dream state spans many dimensions - from the psychological (unconscious) to actual places in the astral plains. In other words, dreams can reflect what's going on inside us emotionally or be vehicles of travel to other dimensions.
As for the women in your dreams, my first thought is that they are acquaintances of his on the other side, perhaps from past lives. They may be friends, family members or teachers. Of course, dreams also reveal our fears, but it doesn't seem like you have any doubt about your husband's faithfulness when you were together. At any rate, I really don't think they represent women he was associated with while living. I'm sorry he left you while so young. If you still have some feelings you'd like to convey to him, perhaps you can tell him during your next dream.
Sweet dreams,
Cortney