It's a new year and you want to feel like your best - and hottest - you. But how do you go about doing that? Sure, you can go on a diet, or buy new clothes, but the true self-confidence that makes for serious sex appeal (read: the "it" factor) comes from something different - it comes from within!
Here are five tips to ramp up your "it" factor - and leave every potential mate you encounter yearning for more!
Smile!
Okay, this may sound cheesy, but a little friendliness goes a long way. Be nice to people you meet - not falsely so, but genuinely. Take pleasure in the people around you and you'll find they take pleasure in you. Plus, the effort of being open has a wonderful side effect - it attracts potential partners. When you're friendly and happy and it shows through, you reek of approachability. Think about it - would you be more likely to talk to someone who smiled at you first? Probably. So let that inner light shine… and reap the rewards when your smiles lead to great conversation, new acquaintances and perhaps even seduction!
Keep the mystery alive
Sometimes, people make the mistake of thinking being friendly (as mentioned above) means sharing their life stories or rambling on about themselves. If your goal is to up your "it" factor, quite the opposite is true. You want to leave a little something to a potential paramour's imagination. So… instead of talking about yourself and your needs/wants/experiences, ask questions in the early stages of conversation (without grilling them, of course!). Nothing is more attractive than being interested in what someone else has to say (without being swayed by their opinion). When questions are asked of you, answer them honestly and directly. Being mysterious doesn't mean steering clear of giving anything about yourself away - it's simply saving something for later, when the person in question has earned your trust and interest.
Wear what works…
People with that special something have a way of making the simplest outfits look incredibly glamorous or sophisticated or unique - whatever it is they exude. The key to this is not necessarily being particularly gorgeous (in fact, you may find those who best demonstrate "it" have noticeable imperfections), it's knowing what works for your body (without overstating it - read: trashy is usually a no go). To rev up your "it" factor from the gym to the office to the hottest night spot, use your clothing to play up your best assets and play down your flaws. Unless you're really into a trend, steer clear of it. A few staple, personalized classics with some of-the-moment items thrown in goes a lot further toward achieving lasting sexiness all your own than being a trendonista.
Pursue your passions
Whether it's a career, a hobby or an indescribable joie de vive that you feel by taking every Saturday to peruse the local museum, take the time to uncover at least one thing that makes you feel passionate. Why? Because passion of any kind implies sexual passion - and it oozes from every pore. Active engagement in life is one sure-fire way to enhance your attractiveness. You'll feel alive - and there's nothing sexier than that!
Be assertive
This one may be one of the hardest aspects of maintaining your "it" factor, as no one single person has super high self-esteem 100% of the time. But, one thing that can be said for "it" individuals is that they understand their intrinsic worth. As such, they're not afraid to take chances. If you see someone you like, suggest that you'd like to spend some time with them, or ask them out. What's the worst that can happen? They'll say no. Big deal! You'll never have to regret that you let an opportunity pass you by - which is what confidence is all about at it's best!
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