Are You Really Healed?

4 essential steps to moving on

The majority of individuals seeking a psychic reading want to know about their soulmates. Though many seek to find that special someone, very few are willing to prepare themselves for their arrival. We tend to allow ourselves the opportunity to engage in relationships of all sorts, but what we don't tend to do is heal from failed relationships - whether they be romantic, family, friends or business-related. Healing is a requirement, not an option.

No relationship is guaranteed to be fulfilling, ever-lasting and mutually beneficial. With this in mind, why not enter into it with a focused mind, free spirit and healed heart? Adding the "weight" of a new relationship to "baggage" from a past relationship can make the whole experience exhausting, confusing and unrewarding - on all levels. That's why you must not only move on from a failed relationship, you must heal from it!

Step 1
Healing is a four-step process. The first step is to release all emotions attached to the experience. You must abandon the pain, fear, guilt, distrust, etc. so that you can move forward, not just "move on" (proceeding in life as if you haven't been adversely affected by certain actions, reactions and circumstances). You will have to re-visit the relationship in order to be able to account for all feelings and release them to the universe. Sure, it's horrifying to relive the experience, but if you do not go back, then you will never progress.

Step 2
After revisiting in order to release, the second step in healing is to forgive. You must forgive all parties involved - including yourself! That is why it is very important to release all negative emotions in the first step so that you can, with a calm heart, seek to forgive the actions and occurrences that took place and may have been the direct cause of those negative emotions.

Step 3
Once negative emotions have been discarded from your being and forgiveness has been granted, the next and third step in the process of healing is to fully understand the lesson! Every experience has a valuable lesson to be gained, whether it's about you, the other person or life in general... feel beyond the DESIRED result of a relationship to be able to accept the ACTUAL result of the experience.

Step 4
With steps 1 to 3 completed, you are now ready to be tested! Yes, you've guessed it... step four is acknowledging that there is no longer a "situation." During this process, you will be able to see if you have completely healed from the experience. If you  have children or other reasons where you need to see your ex and can see the other person, or interact with them and there is no negative feeling during that interaction, pat yourself on the back because you have successfully and completely healed from that relationship and experience. Or maybe, you can hear about your ex or talk about your shared experiences in conversation without feelings of resentment. Mind you, if ANY negative feelings arise before, during or after the encounter, you may need to repeat all or some of the steps of healing.

Healing doesn't occur in time as some would like to believe. Healing takes effort and determination. It can be a very exhausting, compromising and painful undertaking yet can yield a renewed interest in life, love and self. Consider taking these step to heal, you owe it to yourself! The sooner you do it, the sooner you will be able to carry on with a happier life!